The rings.

Or the ring, as my fiance would prefer.

I never dreamt about my dream wedding.  Never had a pre-engagement Monica binder, and still can not get a handle on colors, themes, and all the bits and pieces that make a wedding special.  But I always assumed my husband would wear a wedding band.  It wasn't even a question.

Until now.  He doesn't want to wear one.  Ever.  Not even if I found a wood piece, spray-painted it some silvery/titanium color, and he only had to wear it the day of the big day.

This has absolutely nothing to do about trust, skeeviness, etc.  He is the most loyal guy you will see out there, so no nasty comments about that, please.  He just hates "jewelry." Hates the idea of anything foreign on his hands.  (and no, i don't really think a wedding band and a guido gold-plated necklace fall into the same jewelry category either.)

A big part of me thinks I should just get over it.  If he hates them, he hates them.  What's the big deal?

The smaller part, which is totally beating the crap out of the bigger one, wants him to wear one.  Definitely on the day.  And initially? Future anniversaries, big events, etc.  And eventually?  Daily.

I've thought about tying things on his ring finger while he sleeps.  I'd start off small, with a piece of twine.  Or floss.  I'd gradually increase the size until we get to ring-equivalent.  See if he gets used to it.

I know, I know.  Compromise is key.  But this one? I really want him to want my way.

(did you see the turquoise and think of her too?  i know.  engagement ring here, band that probably will never appear on his hand here, and forget me not here.  and for those of you getting this twice, apologies.  the initial version that posted didn't have the photos.  oops.)